“I have performed for thousands when they found me exotic, the vogue, daring, but I have danced, at any given time, for about ten people. They were the ones that left the theater forever different from the way they were when they came in. All of my life I have danced for those ten.” — Ruth St Denis
This is so true. Every show is different, you’ll have big wonderfully appreciative crowds and small family parties, or uptight city folk desperate to show how unimpressed they are by the world, but there’s always those few who you connect with, who you can make smile and have fun.
To clarify you should not make eye contact with men especially when performing in close quarters such as restaurants, but you definitely should make eye contact with the woman, if you as a performer choose to go into your ‘zone’ and ignore them they’ll reciprocate by ignoring you and the feeling will be mutual aloofness. Not the vision.
If you look like you’re having fun, you’ll be fun to watch. Find those few people in the audience who want to have fun with you and enjoy the connection.